What if 5 moves were all it took to get out of your head and into action?
For Washington women feeling frozen by divorce decisions, this done-in-a-day checklist shows you where to start—before you call a lawyer.
Start here, not in an attorney’s office
Divorce is overwhelming. When you don’t know what to do first, it’s easy to feel frozen. The truth? The very first steps often aren’t legal—they’re financial.
This short checklist gives you five smart money moves you can complete in one day, so you feel more prepared, more confident, and less alone.
Take actionable steps
“Shelly is extremely organized & knowledgeable. I love that she provided actionable steps to implement right away.”
What you’ll learn
✅ The first financial moves you can make privately, before telling the world.
✅ The importance of establishing early financial independence.
✅ Where to find empowering voices to replace the monkey chatter in your head.
✅ One bonus action that gives you instant privacy and peace of mind.
💖 This checklist is perfect for you, even if…
You feel guilty or “selfish” for preparing — even though you know preparing privately is actually an act of self-care and protection.
You feel overwhelmed by all the decisions — this checklist breaks it down into just a few doable, first moves.
You fear you’ve waited too long — it’s never too late to pause, regroup, and start taking the right next steps.
You’re just contemplating divorce and aren’t sure yet — these small, quiet actions help you explore your next chapter without pressure.
You’ve already told your spouse about your intentions — these first moves still ground you before the legal process takes over.
You’ve already hired an attorney — taking these steps now makes your counsel’s legal guidance more effective and efficient.
🚫 This checklist isn’t for you if…
You’re already deep in the legal process and knee-deep in court filings.
You already have a financial team in place and feel fully supported.
Your attorney is also a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) — this is rare but lucky!
You’re looking for legal advice or courtroom strategy — that’s not what I provide.
You’re seeking therapy or emotional counseling rather than financial clarity.
You want instant legal documents, forms, or filing instructions.
You’re not ready to take any action toward clarity — even privately, on your own terms.
Meet your guide
Hi, I’m Shelly Rees Randall — a certified divorce coach and divorce financial strategist. I’ve been exactly where you are: facing the overwhelm of divorce and wondering what I didn’t know that could cost me.
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Today, I live my best life post-divorce by the beach in Port Townsend, Washington, and I’m passionate about helping other women start their divorce on a strong financial footing.
I created the Finances FIRST Framework to do just that.
Once you're on my mailing list, watch for emails from me that help you uncover the hidden financial complexities of divorce — and give you $avvy tips to stay clear and confident as you take your first steps on this journey.
👉 Ready for your next step? Let’s walk it together.
Take more control with a clear plan
“Shelly helped me over a big barrier to taking more control with a clear plan and to stop living in an isolated mindset of fear and anxiety. ”
